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August 5th, 2004, 02:13 PM
I have heard that most writers dont like family or friends reading their work until it is finished.
I am one of them.
Who else has this ' symptom' or ' problem'

ironchef texmex
August 5th, 2004, 02:50 PM
I'm the same way. I can be very self conscious about my writing. Even the books that I think I've finished and have being showing around, when I come back to them later and start editing, all of the sudden I don't want anyone to see them again until I complete the edit.

August 5th, 2004, 02:57 PM
I'm the same way. I can be very self conscious about my writing. Even the books that I think I've finished and have being showing around, when I come back to them later and start editing, all of the sudden I don't want anyone to see them again until I complete the edit.

I really dont like showing off any romantic writing either. This has notihng to do with your post.

James Barclay
August 5th, 2004, 05:02 PM
Many writers are a little 'shy' shall we say. It's natural, don't worry about it. That's a symptom of being a writer, I guess. Don't show anyone anything until you are comfortable doing so (but one day you will have to so you might have to learn to be comfortable...)

Problem? Probably not. It depends what you want them to read it for. If it's critique, make sure they'll be brutally honest because people who only tell you your stuff is great are no good to you. Mind you, if it's to boost your ego, then print it and send it to them now.


August 5th, 2004, 06:58 PM
Great advice, Nom. I've never been shy about my work. The best way to learn is to get it out there and let people tear it apart. This is also the best way to be able to later take rejection. I know everything I write isn't great (though some of my test readers will tell me so). I know a lot of what I've written to date has been mostly practice and others of those pieces came out quite nicely.

But don't worry, subzero, it comes with the territory. You must take your chances and hope for the best (and prepare for the worst). If you don't, you'll have a tough time. Be prepared for a lot of disappointment for very few authors get published and those that do had a long road filled with rejections. You must take the attitude of 'One more rejection to publication'.

Keep writing, keep posting, keep having fun with it. :)

August 5th, 2004, 08:28 PM
At the root of this problem lies the simple fact that an author's writing is like a window into his or her innermost thoughts. I certainly wouldn't want people to read everything I write. That's because not all of it is meant to be read. Some of it is just for me.

As a kid who wrote a lot growing up, I was always worried about people finding stuff that I'd written. Often I'd write about certain girls, or "romantic" (and perfectly healthy) thoughts. Or I'd write some pretty far out science fiction - I suppose the kind of stuff that kept the girls primarily in my fictional world.

I tore up a lot of stuff from that time. Now I wish that I hadn't.

If you have people who could find your work (roommates, parents, siblings, spouses), I would say that your best bet is to tell them that you write, and ask them to respect your privacy. You will share your work if and when you feel ready. It helps to explain that the process of writing isn't linear. Sometimes you have to sit down and scribble out a pile of crap before you get to anything good.

Another option would be to put a little disclaimer on top of anything rough you write. Something like:
This is a rough draft story, not meant for anyone to see without permission of the author. It contains private thoughts and as such anyone reading is specifically violating both the author's wishes and privacy. If you absolutely need to see the contents of this file, please speak with the author.

Of course this brings to mind a Chief Wiggum quote:
"What is it with my forbidden closet of mystery that you boys find so interesting?"

August 6th, 2004, 08:47 PM
When I give something for someone else to read, I always find a dozen errors or something else that's wrong. Or someone pulls a page I threw away out of the trash and starts reading it - which is why you should always tear up the paper into little tiny bits.

Keeping your toenail clippings and not taking baths however should wait until after you're published and own a casino you've bought from your book writing money. ;)

August 7th, 2004, 08:45 AM
I never expect people to like my work, honestly. I can see all the errors, all the faults I feel are there. I worry about the language, the story... everything... Yet I hand it to people and say, read it and tell me the truth, be honest. If it sucks tell me. I want to know what others think. I might not like it one bit, but they have taken the time to read the work and taken more time to comment, therefore I owe them the curtesy of taking notice of what they said.

I am also frightened about what people see/think when they read my words. I am just trying to tell a story the best way I can. Often the words tumble out and are set down becasue they feel right in that manner or way.

I have one published work a small POD book and... well someone I didn't know brought the book just on an off chance. I had mentioned it on another forum I am a member of and the purchase stemmed from that. Something in that book affected the reader in a personal way. This person, whom I have never contacted before, took time to write to me, I passed the letter to my co-author. It shocked me, still does and if I never get published main stream it doesn't matter I know that the words I have put down affected some one in a way I never dreamed of when I was writing the work.

It brought home to me the power we have when we write.

August 13th, 2004, 04:02 AM
At least, your friends and family read your stuff. I'd have to beat my friends with a very large stick for them to read past page 20, with the exception of one or two. Ironically, they're not even my closest friends. I wish I had some writer friends because I could use feedback. Anyone in the Bay Area?